Tuesday, December 3, 2013

Small Steps

So, this submissive thing.

It is not as easy as it seems.

Easy probably isn't the right word. I never thought this would be easy but yet I continue to be surprised by how hard it can be.

The first time I got in the drivers seat on our trip, I didn't make it 20 yards before he was correcting my driving. 

"Are you going to turn on your blinker?"

"Yes, I was getting to it! I haven't even been driving for a minute and you're already telling me how to drive!" Yes, I was snippy and nevermind that I would have forgotten to turn on the blinker.

I realized at this point what I was going to have to do... let him tell me how to drive. *gasp, shock, stunned silence*

Later on...

"Slow down, there's ice on the road."

No, you don't say. "I know there's ice on the road."

"Well, you need to slow down."

"Okay, I will slow down."

I then received a lesson on how to drive on icy roads.

FYI, we have lived in an area that has snow on the ground -for five to six months out of the year- for seven years now.

Do you know just how hard it was to keep my mouth shut and listen to him?! It wasn't easy, but I did it. I just listened and did what Master said. 

And I have to say, it was much easier to obey than it would have been to rip his head off... much less clean up too.


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  1. On the rare occasion that Master and I go somewhere, he drives, and I just relax. Well, sort of. He's a very impatient driver so it could stress me out if I let it, but I've been good at not letting it. He tries to tell me how things should be around my apartment though. I explain why I have it the way I have it. He's always certain his way is right though.

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    1. I think impatient is Masters middle name, lol.

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  2. Mine NEVER lets me drive and that has been long before M/s! Not even if we were taking my car. It used to bother me but I.finally just stopped asking.

    Kudos to you for holding your tongue and learning to drive again. I am sure it won't be the last thing you find out you've done wrong all these years:) lol

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    1. The only reason he let me drive was because we were in the car for so long, but any other time you can bet he will be driving.

      I'm sure I will find out that I've been doing many things the wrong way :)

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  3. LOL...this made me laugh. It is exactly that type of every day thing that always trips me up. I cannot imagine having to drive with Him sitting next to me....i gladly leave it all to Him. I am very impressed with you restraint and submissiveness.
    hugs abby

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    1. I dread driving with him, thank goodness I don't have to do it often. Seriously, it is never pretty.

      I'm kind of impressed with myself too :)

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  4. Oh Misty I know exactly what you're talking about. When we started down this path I really didn't think this was going to be that difficult. I knew I had a mouth, I knew I was impatient, I knew I was spoiled, I knew I had a temper and yet for some reason, it never dawned on me that I would have any issues, I always thought He was going to have the hard time. WOW....can you say stupid? It's the mindset and past practice that you have to get past. I struggle with it everyday!!!! If you have any advice or suggestions on how to keep my mouth shut (besides the obvious....duct tape) I would love to hear it!

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    1. Me give advice?! I don't know. I guess, well, every time I wanted to ask if he remembered how old I was, or if he remembered where we live, or every time I wanted to stomp on the breaks and walk the rest of the way, I just kept breathing :) And you know what, after a few times of working through that "my head is going to explode if I don't tell you how it is" feeling, it got easier to listen, I think he even relaxed a little, it was weird lol. But, yeah, just breathe and ask yourself if it would really be 'that' bad to do what he is asking.

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  5. LOL this had me giggling almost all the way. and you know, the thing i tell myself everytime i want to get snippy is BREATHE. and stop. just leave it. i say that in turn. and after a while it's ok. i think as long as there is only ONE person talking (them) things wont turn into a fight. (can't fight if only one person is talking right?)

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    1. Exactly! Now I just need to remember to keep my mouth shut lol

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  6. Lol. I once was allowed to drive (even before M/s he did all the driving). It was between two exits on the freeway (so for about a mile or two). Our conversation for that mile or two was very similar to yours. Only I didn't handle it as well (which is why he took back the driver's seat at the next exit).

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  7. Misty,
    Small steps can turn into good foundation blocks.
    It seems like you did get through the driving and I can imagine how tough it was to keep silent and just do.
    Often times, I find obeying does take up a lot less energy. *hugs*

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    1. It really does take less energy, it's crazy! Lol. I wish I could say I did as well once we got there but can't change everything at once I guess :)

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