Sunday, March 23, 2014

Oh Shit

I'm just going to be blunt here.

Is anal play healthy? Seriously, things are not supposed to go up there.

My worry?

I don't want to poop all over myself when I'm older. Or, you know, in a year. Because if it is going to happen, it will never be at the right time.


There! I said it. It's a real fear of mine.

A few months ago, I had a dream nightmare that my butt hole was huge. I was looking down on myself, I was on my back, and there was my butt hole. I could have dropped a cantaloupe right in! It was awful. I wanted to cry. Still do.

I know I could do research online but, I don't think I want to know.

12 comments:

  1. Technically, no, of course it's not healthy. The infection potential alone is a huge problem. Mind you, I'm one who does enjoy anal, but I guess I should say used to enjoy it for about a ten-year span during my marriage. But it always itched for a week afterwards. Aside from that, all the stretching certainly can't help the condition of your butt as it won't function optimally as you age even without the added strain. Mine doesn't. I don't think it's from anal, since I've only done it three times in the last three years, and even back when married maybe a total of 20 times. Butt still, let's put it this way, backdoor sex is behind me, because I don't want to make it even a teensy bit worse than it already is.

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    1. Tiklish, I'm going to ignore your comment and move on to the next. ;)

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  2. I am in big trouble then. lol

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    1. Danni, after I posted this I did some reading on Kegels, men can do them too! I had no idea. Lol. Anyway, they should help to keep those muscle in working order :)

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  3. (((Hugs))) I get your fears - i really don't like the look of stretched butt holes that you get in porn sometimes, when she's holding it open and a big dildo or cock has just exited - yuk!

    However - your rectum, like your vagina, is muscle and is designed to expand to allow things to pass and then to tighten back up again. You can tone both with pelvic floor exercises and butt clenches and so on.

    When having anal sex, you should make sure there's lots of lube or moisture - we don't use artificial lube as I don't react well to many of the chemicals used, but we do use lots of saliva (usually mine) and also pussy juices (always mine!). I know people like different degrees of pain, but you need to be cautious as you can cause a tear - these will heal up obviously, and usually do so quickly, but you'll need to refrain from anal sex while they do.

    There is a difference between enjoyable intensity - good pain - and things getting way too bashed up - bad pain.

    Ok, some people like bad pain, so maybe that isn't much help!

    Certainly it shouldn't be itching for a week afterwards, I would have thought something else is going on there...

    At the end of the day, if you enjoy it and it's not causing lasting pain and/or heavy bleeding, you should be ok. Any other worries or additional conditions or whatever, maybe see your GP? Sounds scary, but seriously, they've seen/heard it all!

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    1. There's the reality of the poo germs getting into the sore areas, which is inevitable, since poo will be coming through the sore passageway, and it always caused itching for me in the days after. Thank heaven for Echinacea tea. I used to pour it in there and it worked wonders. Yup, you needed to know that. Hee.

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    2. oooh, i didn't know that - handy to know that about echinacea too, I'll remember that one!

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    3. mc kitten, I think I love you! :)

      That porn image you are talking about is just what I saw in my dream, except I was a lot bigger. Ugh!

      There has been a couple of times he hasn't used lube but normally we do, lots of it.

      Thank you so much! I want to hug you.

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  4. Great reply from MC.

    Lube, lube and more lube (and honestly, our go to lube is that cure-all of coconut oil).
    It can be scary but if you are going to give it a try, being relaxed is key (I know, easier said than done).

    I can understand your fear. I get around that one by making sure anal play happens on a empty stomach. Have you played with butt plugs? That might be a good way to start to feel comfortable.

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    1. Bleuame, we use coconut oil too. The stuff is awesome! I have a jar in the bedroom, bathroom, and kitchen.

      Yes we have plugs, one quite large. I really like anal, most of the time, and I don't want to stop but if was going to cause me problems down the road...

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  5. Hi Misty, I can certainly understand your fear. Some wonderful advice above and I hope it has helped allay your worries.

    Hugs,
    Roz

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    1. Roz, I feel much better! Thank you.

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