Thursday, July 24, 2014

Worthlessness

Do you ever feel like you can't do anything right? Or good enough?

It's not him making me feel this way, I'm doing it to myself and I'm applying it to many areas of my life at the moment.

I'm learning that when I get this way, I just give up. What's the point of doing it, if I can't do it right? If I can't come close to perfect, then why?...that's what's going through my mind right now. I think this is a reason for many of my life failures.

When I start something new I aim high, or for the most difficult, am I just setting myself up for failure when I do that?

When I try harder and improvement still doesn't happen, it gets so much worse, I withdraw and I feel so...worthless.

The thing is, I know that I'm not completely worthless, so why do I let myself feel this way? I just don't get it!

Sorry about the negative posts I've been writing lately! I would much rather keep things happy, but life isn't always that way, so I guess I can't expect my blog to be that way either...

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  1. Sweetie, it so easy to share the good, the fun, the happy times...not so easy to share the rest. Thank you for sharing all of you with us....HUGS....hope things improve soon
    hugs abby

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  2. You are right, life isn't that way. Life moves in cycles and I think people appreciate seeing the good with the bad because that's what is real. Its not always in the successes that we learn. Its in the other stuff!

    So please take it easy on yourself and I will repeat what I just put on another blog...we are human. Which means we will make mistakes.

    Forgive yourself and try harder next time, but don't give up! I don't think there is anything with setting your sights high. That's a sign of a strong, ambitious person:)

    Hugs

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    1. Oops....should have said don't think there is anything "wrong" with setting your sights high

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    2. little girl, it does seem like the hard times are when we learn the most. Ugh, giving up is soooo easy, lol, but you're right I should forgive myself and try harder...I'm going to try.

      Thanks so much! Really!

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  3. Perfection is an unattainable illusion, but I think it's still good to aim high--keeps standards up!
    I get really frustrated when I can't meet my own impossibly high standards. I think it happens to all of us (except for people who don't have high enough standards, and to them I say: phhbt).

    Sorry to hear that you're down. I hope that things look up soon!

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    1. lil, it is so frustrating! And why do we think we should be so perfect? I don't expect anyone else to be that way...

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  4. Hi, I'm new to your blog. This post hit close to home for me. I have felt many of these things. I'm a perfectionist who regularly fails to be as perfect as I'd like. I let those perceived failures weigh heavily on me and I find myself withdrawing and full,of negative self talk.

    (((Hugs)))

    Beth

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    1. Awkward Frog, thanks for reading and the comment!! It's always nice to see a new face :)

      It's easy to get sucked in to negative thinking when the outcome doesn't reflect effort. I know there are people who turn that into motivation...I wish I was one of them. Sigh. :)

      Sorry you found me on a not so happy day!

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  5. Misty, I hear you. I think we all feel this way at times, I know I do. Please be kind to yourself, I hope things feel better soon.

    As Abby said, thank you for sharing all of you with us. It's so easy to just share the good. This is real.

    Hugs
    Roz

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    1. Roz, why is it so hard to be kind to myself?! I would never dream of being this hard on anyone, so why do I do it to me?

      I've tried to stay true to my feelings here, it isn't easy...and I think I might have to write about that :)

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  6. i feel this more often than i have energy to even write about right now =( in happy and crappy feeling posts, your blog is a comfort misty...so much is familiar to me...
    XOXO Pearl

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    1. Pearl, hug! I'm glad you have found some comfort here, that means a LOT to me.

      It's hard dealing with this feeling...we just have to push through it, I think...

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