Sunday, November 9, 2014

Why Do I Like Things that I Don't Like?

That is the question currently floating around in my head. 

'Cause why do I like things I don't like?


I'm not talking about the things that I really like, but don't want to admit to liking, or the things I don't like at all. No, I'm talking of things that I don't like, but turn me into a pliable whore.


Take him rubbing my juices all over my face, for example. I can't really say I like that, it feels gross, and it makes me want to wash my face. But, damned if I don't like it. 

I'm inclined to say that it is his dominance that makes me like it, but maybe it's also because I like feeling used?

Or maybe I like it because I like to be pleasing?

Or maybe I'm a just whore?

All of the above?

Maybe someone out there might share their thoughts...

If you are the "s" in D/s, why do you like things you don't? Do you even have things you don't like, yet like? 

If you are the "D", why do you think your "s" likes things they don't like?

18 comments:

  1. Oh, i get this!! I think partly for me is the feeling of helplessness. Add to that the raw passion he exhibits towards me when I am completely submitting to his desires...yeah, I find myself liking what I don't like.

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    1. little girl, helplessness, I hadn't thought of that! But, raw passion, well, you can just say those words and I melt so... :)

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  2. Yep, I can relate too. I think it's s combination of the show if dominance, submitting to his will and it's just plain hot lol

    Hugs
    Roz

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    1. Roz, dominance is definitely in there for me, too! :)

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  3. ooo what a fantastic post/discussion! *cracks knuckles in preparation*

    there are most certainly things I don't like - genuinely DO NOT LIKE, both sexual and utterly non sexual, yet...I am drawn to them, I crave having things I don't like done to me (probably to do with feeling his dominance) and I also crave there being things I don't like just in our dynamic.

    Early this year a light bulb went off in my head (finally) and I asked myself - could I possibly be an emotional masochist as well as just a masochist of the ordinary sort?!

    I looked at how I react to things, how I wallow in misery that is largely imagined, how I create mountains out of molehills and internalise them. I looked back at all sorts of things in my life and realised - yes, I am an emotional masochist!

    This has made SO MUCH SENSE to so much in my life.

    I'm not saying that it's the same story for you but it was a revelation for me and answered many of the questions you pose here.

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    1. mc kitten, oh, you might be on to something! I must think... :)

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  4. Very interesting discussion...i must say i agree with all the above. I think it is the submission part of it...if you only do what you like, i question the submission in that....doing something you would not or do not like...that rings more of submission to me. Then there is the whole being open to Him thing...i am still working on that one....but to think that you can be you...all of you...and He is in charge...how freeing is that??
    hugs abby

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    1. abby, I think you're right, it's all of the above--submission as a whole, and at its finest. Gosh, that's such a simple answer, lol.

      It is so hard to be open...

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  5. I am on board with you. I never would have thought that I'd enjoy sucking my juices off his penis or having him make me lick them off his fingers after they've been inside me. I think it's because of the control and dominance he has over me and my submissive place and job to please him.

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    1. Spankingly, it's crazy, right?!

      I think I just like submitting :)

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  6. when i'm in my 'sub-space' I go crazy and do all sorts of things that I wouldn't normally do. I think it's just part of my submissive / masochistic personality. Sometimes the next day, I just shake my head and wonder just how I did these things, but the next time I get in the mood, i end up doing the same nasty things again and even look forward to be pushed into doing even nastier things

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    1. sissy teri, thanks for commenting!

      It's baffling how we look forward to all these things, huh?! I should probably stop trying to figure it out and just enjoy myself :)

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  7. For me it's all about submission and pleasing Mistress. The first time she used a butt plug on me, I didn't want it but she did. the first time she pegged me I didn't want it but she did. the first time she had me taste my cum from her finger. I wanted to keep my mouth shut but she wanted it.
    She takes me down roads I've never been on and I find I love the roads.
    Lead me my Mistress and I will follow.
    archedone

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    1. archedone, thanks for the comment!

      I do love making Daddy happy, it's not always easy...

      I have done things just because he wanted me to and found that I really enjoyed them, which totally messes with my head, lol, but I love it. Don't knock it, 'til you try it :)

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  8. I think she does them to please. She wants to please because she is submissive.

    FD

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    1. FD, oh thanks for your perspective!

      I really think that's the foundation of it, that I am submissive and I like him to be happy with me. In other words, it's just who I am :)

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  9. Well, I'm a submissive married male, but being that this is a thought-provoking question AND lurker day, thought I would respond. Hope you don't mind.

    I like my wife controlling my orgasms and controlling me sexually. I don't like it sometimes because, well, it's frustrating. But she does not like me "topping from the bottom", so I am learning to live with it. I love pleasing her and sometimes she simply rolls over and falls asleep without giving me any "attention". That's what I have the most angst about - when I am not really teased at all. But my submission to her (in the bedroom only - we are pretty "normal" outside the bedroom) has really made us a lot closer as a couple. Being honest about my kinks has really helped us grow together.

    So I want her to control me but I don't. But mainly I do.

    Cheers
    sherulestherooster

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    1. Lovetosubmit, sorry it has taken me so long to reply! And thanks for taking the time to comment on both posts!

      Oh, good point! Doing these things, making ourselves vulnerable, bring us closer together...kinda scary, yet comforting...

      I think we could go back and forth all day--liking it and not. lol.




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