I'm definitely on the submissive side outside of our relationship.
I am not management, nor have I ever wanted to be anything of the sort. This used to bother me because I thought everyone should want to move up in rank, however it doesn't get to me now. Not to toot my own horn but, I'm a damn good employee. I loathe making mistakes, mostly because I see how it effects other people. I'm honest and follow the rules because when I don't it eats at me, for ages, and I hate it. I expect to be an asset--to perform at a certain level and improve the business.
Of course, there are exceptions to my greatness in the work place. ;) I can't have too much freedom. For a short while I worked as a sales rep. (it was something my employer wanted me to try out, and it got me out of the office for a couple hours a day), which I was allowed to go wherever I wanted and I didn't have a quota, basically they didn't have any expectations for me...so, yeah, that didn't turn out very well. Lol. Not only that but, I'm just not good at sales.
The other exception...my employer must (this is a very firm and bold "must") appreciate and respect their employees. I don't work for people that don't see the value in each employee...or at least pretend to see their value. My first few jobs were in the restaurant industry--I was a waitress and bar tender. I ended up with a job working in a hotel bar (a world wide hotel chain that you've most definitely heard of), the owner the hotels came in for (what looked like a) business lunch with one other person...he tipped his waitress (not me) $2. He is a billionaire that tipped his employee two freaking dollars. I don't care how long he sat there, or how little he ate, or if he got rich by being conservative with his money, he should have given her more. I would have given him the money back. I was gone within the next two weeks. On the other side of that, I worked for a small restaurant chain that put great care into their employees...I served the owner and, what I believed to be, his family dinner one Sunday night, he tipped me $100, wrote me a letter telling me just how much he appreciated my service, gave me a job in his bar (which included a very nice pay increase), and made sure my managers knew how happy he was with my service (and how unhappy he was with the rest of his restaurant). You can bet your ass I worked hard for them...there was no way I was going to disappoint them after that!
I say all this about employment because the same holds true outside of it. I don't want to be in control (but that's not to say I couldn't do it, because I could, if someone expected it of me). I don't want to be in front, I get more joy from being in the background--I guess you could say that it warms my soul. I thrive when I know what is expected of me--it's a great comfort to be directed and know what is expected of me. I like knowing ways I can help. I set out to make people happy and improve life. I will go above and beyond for people, as long as they value and respect me.
There are other particular things that show how I'm submissive, but there are exceptions to them, and exceptions to those exceptions, and who has time for all of that? :)