Wednesday, July 6, 2016

I'm Not Leaving

There has been a string of people that have left, or are taking a break from blogging, or have just up and disappeared and, to be honest, I've been thinking about leaving for a couple months now.

I have my reasons excuses, none of which are good enough (it boils down to fear, I think), so I can't really justify leaving. And, besides, I love writing.

But...

I miss people.

And, so many that were here in the beginning of my blogging aren't here anymore, and now people are leaving (some have said as much, some I just suspect). People come and go, *shrugs shoulders*, that's blogging.

It's hard for me because (some of) those people helped me become who I am today, and somewhere along the way I became attached. I'm not normally an attached kind of person (things change, people change, it's how life works), so it's surprising to find this out. 

As an attempt to disengage, I've thought very seriously about leaving and moving. 

I can't say I won't move (having my own website sounds fun (but a lot of work that I don't have time for right now)), however I can say I'm not going to stop blogging.

Maybe I just need a change, of some sort... A new layout? New content? New...something...




39 comments:

  1. I get it. Really I do. The face of blogland has changed so very much since I started several years ago. And perhaps I feel in some ways the spirit of it has as well. BUT that is why I love coming by here! When I read here, ( and when you stop by 'my place' ) it makes me remember why I love this community. Those who are willing to lay themselves out there, despite the fear within. It takes great courage to write the way you do Misty.

    It also takes great courage, as I have read about your past, and I think we have talked about it a little, for someone like you to allow others in, so when people start leaving it is understandable that you would want to as well.

    If you decide to give this place a bit of a facelift, I can 'help' make a Blog Title Banner if you want. I used to do that for blogging friends all the time. I haven't done it outside of mine for quite some time, but it is fun and I like that kind of stuff.

    Anyway, I am so happy to hear that you aren't going anywhere. I hope you are feeling back to your old self soon!

    willie

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    1. Thank you so much, willie! I really appreciate your kind words about my words. I try to keep things real.

      I don't like feeling attached! I know it's not always a bad thing, but...

      I think I will take you up on the banner! This place needs something to give it a new feel.

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  2. Yah... summers are always tough (I know my posts get sparse and fluffy, for sure) and this year does seem particularly desolate, doesn't it?
    There's a definite sense of "there goes the neighborhood!" to it all -- and yet...
    People are still reading, just not writing. So it's really not as unilateral as it feels...
    Or so I like to tell myself.

    Thus Spoke Pollyanna ;-p
    (Who's Dilatory But Unmoving Herself)

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    1. Jz, I've only had one full summer, this will be my second (I started in Aug.), so maybe it's a matter of getting used to it?

      It does feel like the neighborhood is gone, but if it is, that means there's a new one coming, right?

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    2. Ummmm, okay, so I need more coffee. Lol. I've had two full summer's of blogging, this will be my third.

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    3. oh, thank goodness, cuz you had me thinking maybe *I* needed more coffee!

      Yes, my neighborhood has shifted a few times already and it will continue to do so as long as I'm here, I'm sure. The shifts do get easier but they can still make me question my continued residence, so I sure get what you're saying.

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    4. Jz, I've been thinking that maybe it's the natural order of things, part of assessing our situations and making sure we're getting the most out of what we're doing...

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  3. Funny..or maybe not funny, just....strange. I have been having the same thoughts about leaving...or at least just not blogging any more...I could never leave, I would worry and wonder what all of you were up to....For now, I am just not blogging as often.....glad to hear you are not leaving....we are kindred spirits, I believe...
    hugs abby

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    1. abby, I'm glad to hear you're not leaving, too!

      I also thought about forgoing the writing, but then I would find I had something to say...lol.

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    2. For fucks sake!! You two had better just take the time off you need.....and come right back....every time! No leaving for good. I need Misty and all your growing confidence, I need Abby and her down to earth honesty......

      I have taken the breaks too....wondered if I really had anything worth saying....and found, that I miss the friendships when I am gone.

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    3. LMAO! How do you really feel Pearl?

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    4. Thanks Pearl....Don't think I could ever just leave...I would spend my time wondering how you were all doing...just will probably be posting less..
      hugs abby

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    5. Pearl, you know, I've been in blogging funks before (there's proof of that in these pages), but it's harder to keep going when people are leaving! But, how could I leave with people like you around?
      Thank you so much for wanting me around. You better not leave either.

      willie, I totally snorted when I read your comment. lmao. Pearl knows how to tell it like it is. :)

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  4. Blogging is by its very nature a dynamic activity. Consequently, us bloggers are a fluid bunch who come and go, and like you, I'm missing many who have simply stopped or vanished without trace. I expect for every visible blogger, there are loads who quietly read and are completely invisible. They are the unseen members of our community and I guess they are always there in some way. I don't write for them or anyone, but me, so likewise if you enjoy writing, then keep writing, and if you do, thank you.
    hugs
    DF

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    1. DF, you speak wise words. I love writing and I'm staying.

      So glad you're still here!!

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  5. We are just so clueless. Please know we learn from all of you and it's helped our marriage tremendously, even the little bit that we manage to figure out. So thank you thank you thank you one and all.

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  6. I've thought of leaving facebook multiple times now. I don't like all the political crap that everyone feels so free to dish out. But then I discovered the magic of "unfollowing" and that has really made it worthwhile. I like seeing photos of my friend's kids and such. So, I'm staying there for now.

    With respect to blogging, I have also thought, what's the point? I don't get a lot of comments and things seem in cruise control right now. But I like to write, I think it's therapeutic. In any event, carry on. Seems like a lot of people are interested in what you have to say.

    Cheers
    Paul

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    1. Paul, facebook, facebook, facebook...damn that place, I just can't get away! lol. I tried once, but then I wasn't told that my grandpa was sick because they forgot I wasn't on facebook.

      Writing is therapeutic. I'm happy you're here. :)

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  7. Yeah....to all that is above.
    I'm glad you are staying. And I so miss the neighbourhood, too.

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    1. Bleue, I'm so glad you are here.

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  8. LOL I left for a bit and then came back. Cos you know,I just miss the blogosphere and all the lovely people in it.

    I think what you say is very tru tho, after a while i felt like the people whom I used to interact with are gone, leaving me with "new" people to get to know and start new friendships with, and sometimes i felt that i had nothing to say cos all the stuff that needed saying had already been written, and then there was the shift in my dynamic with daddy, so that part of me felt like it was a farce, and the fact that we're not really a "couple" couple still bugs me sometimes - like it's less real than some of the other couples out here.

    but still, I'm glad for the new friends and I suppose i just need to realise that no one's judging.

    Glad you've decided to stay.

    *sorry for the long comment*

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    1. Fondles, that's one great thing about this place, it's here when you want it. I'm glad you came back!

      What you have with him isn't any less real. We all have something different...

      PS I love long comments. I'm just not good at making them myself. :)

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  9. I don`t have a personal blog, for multiple reasons, but every single day I come on and read the select few I have saved, yours included. From the readers side of the fence, when someone just vanishes, I always think I hope they are okay, their relationship, wellness etc. Even though I will never meet the bloggers (UK here) it is nice to know if someone is having a break, leaving for good, just so we know things are all good (or not if the case be) As for summer? what summer?! We seemed to have bypassed it here in England . .

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    1. Anonymous, thank you so very much.

      I worry about them, too. I get that sometimes it's easier to disappear than say goodbye but, still, I'd really like to know they are okay.

      We've recently had unseasonably cool days here, and I'd like to give Mother Nature a few words about that. :)

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  10. Hi Misty, I get it too. Blogland has changed a lot since I started blogging and I often wonder about old friends that have left. I myself have had numerous periods of absence and, as you know, rarely post on my blog now. Mostly because I don't know what to write now days. I think a number of us read and comment rather than post now.

    I'm so glad you have decided to stay. Oh, and I would recommend taking Willie up on her offer if you want to change your space and give it a new look:) She has helped me numerous times.

    Hugs
    Roz

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    1. Roz, as long as you're here, I'm good! When you took a break, I missed you! I mean, I would love to see you posting, but I'm selfish enough to enjoy your comments. ;)

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  11. I miss you. I've been working on healing and moving forward. I will be back, though a different blog name. The thoughts of his slut will always be for Him.

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    1. Hs, it is so nice to hear from you! I am truly sorry it didn't work out between you and Him.

      Please let us know when the new blog is up!

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    2. Yes, please let us know when you are blogging again.

      *hugs*

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  12. Been there, done that... When I had my first computer meltdown, I was furious because I couldn't post. I refuse to buy a cheap computer to start right back up because the one I had never missed a beat for over ten years. It's software was way outdated, but it was great for blogging... The first thing I notice when I stopped posting was that I was receiving more comments that said "were are you" than comments that I normally received about my poems. People were reading, but not commenting. The second thing was I was no longer a slave to my computer. I had stopped writing and started posting to keep new poems up. So I took a about a six month break (that seem like forever) before I came back. When I did come back, I change my blog theme a little, then started posting again. Things had changed more than I knew. Talk about rust, I'm still trying to find that style I was using before the meltdown, plus most of the people that use to follow my blog are gone, and I have new followers from places like Brazil, Spain and France. It's real cool, except for all the translations I have to do.... Our sexuality is pretty much the same around the world, but our practice in one area seem to dominate. Such as spanking. U.K. is the not so quiet leader in that regard. Every country seem to have a specialty, but Brazil is one country that's not tight lip about their sexuality one bit. They get right to the butt of it.... :) So yes, change your look, and keep writing, just like milk, it's good for you...

    peace and love
    1ManView

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    1. 1ManView, it's nice to know people miss you, or would miss you, huh? I need to comment more at your place, I do read there...

      It is interesting to hear about different places around the world. I hate to admit that I'm not very worldly, I'm an American stuck in the American bubble. lol.

      Thank you for the comment!

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    1. Daisy, thank you! willie made the header, isn't it great?! I love it.

      I saw you had an anniversary (but haven't had a chance to read the post, yet), I hope it was great!

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    2. It's stunning well done Willie!
      No worries :) :)

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    3. I love that you read my blog :)

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    4. Thank you. You are too kind.

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  14. Sometimes life just gets in the way and sometimes I just don't know what to say. When I first started blogging I posted and commented all the time. Now it's at best sporadic. Ah well, such is life I suppose. I do miss everyone when I'm not here and I miss those who have left as well. I'm not sure if it was a more tight knit community a few years ago or if it just feels that way to me because I'm less involved than I used to be ... perhaps a bit of both. Glad you're sticking around though! :)

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    1. Lilli, sorry it has taken me so long to reply.

      I think blogging has its ups and downs just like everything else, but in the beginning it's new and exciting, then a shift happens. The great thing is, it's always here when you want it. :)

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